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Shift your perspective and take better photos now with the free 7 day challenge

You love photographing your kids, but are you frustrated with the results?

How many times has this happened to you?

  • You see a moment that you want to capture, but the photos you take don’t reflect the beauty and the emotions of that moment.
  • Your photos are blurry, the lighting is bad, and in taking your camera out, the moment was ruined anyway as your kids either posed, reached for the camera, or made a face.
  • Instead of reliving the moment you wanted to capture, all you feel is disappointment.

You don’t want to become a photographer. You’re doing too many things already, and learning another skill, especially one that you don’t feel you have any “natural talent” for… well, let’s be realistic, it just isn’t going to happen.

All you want to do is be able to capture the moment - the amazing, beautiful moments with your amazing, beautiful kids.

You want photos that bring a smile to your face and help you remember this time in your life.

You want photos that reflect everything you love about your kids.

You want photos that make you feel good.

Here's what I want you to know:

  • You CAN capture the beauty of the moment before you.
  • Your camera CAN bring you closer to your child.
  • You CAN take a photo of your child that makes you feel amazing.

When you use photography in support of your parenting experience, you can find more joy, delight and confidence daily.

It’s not about becoming a professional photographer.

It’s about using photography to get more out of your experience as a parent - to find your voice, become more connected to your child, be more in the moment, and to tell the story of your family’s life, now and for years to come.


7 days to better photos of your kids
in 10 minutes a day or less
using just your smartphone

As a busy mom to two young boys myself, I know what it takes to capture the moments with your kids in photos that reflect the beauty and love you experienced at the time. Amazing photos of your kids that reflect how it feels are well within your reach, but I’ve heard from so many parents who struggle with this.

So I have created a free 7 day challenge that will shift your perspective and get you feeling better about your photos in just 10 minutes a day or less.

The free 7 day challenge includes:

  • 7 daily challenges in beautiful PDF format emailed to you each day for 7 days - read them on your smartphone in just a few minutes while you are on the go
  • Each challenge includes a tip that you can apply that day as you go about your normal routines with your kids - all you need is your smartphone (I love the photos I take on my iPhone!)
  • Direct access to me and other challenge participants via our private Facebook group. Join us to post questions and share your daily photo. (This is optional but highly recommended - past Photosanity parents raved about our Facebook groups where you can find a community of like-minded parents)

In 7 days, we will shift your focus to how it feels, not how it looks so that you:

  • feel better about the photos you take on your smartphone
  • have an expanded idea of the moments that are worth capturing daily
  • have an increased appreciation for the moments you’re already living
  • feel better as a parent as a result of your experience photographing your kids.

Sign up now - it's free!


Who is this challenge for?

This is for any parent who would like to take better photos and get more out of their experience photographing their kids.

Do I need any special equipment?

All you need is your smartphone - I love photographing my kids daily on my iPhone. The tips are also applicable to any camera, including a DSLR.

Is this challenge for beginners?

Yes! But even professional photographers have found inspiration in the Photosanity perspective, so past Photosanity parents and more experienced photographers are absolutely welcome too. I plan on participating in the course alongside everyone else and look forward to the inspiration I know I will gain.

I’m a working parent with very little time daily with my kids - will this course work for me?

Yes! This course will help you leverage the time you have with your kids daily, even if it is only a few minutes.

I’ve already taken all the Photosanity workshops and worked with you one-on-one - is this for me?

Yes, absolutely, I would love to have you join us! While you will recognize many of the core Photosanity concepts, the content and format is new and is applicable wherever you are in your journey to Photosanity. This is also a great time to introduce Photosanity to new friends!

My kids are a little older - is that ok?

Absolutely. While Photosanity is geared towards parents with younger children (from newborn to elementary), we have had parents with tweens and teens join us in past workshops, and all of the 7 day tips are applicable. And stay tuned - over the next year or so, we will be developing new content that speaks to the needs of parents with older kids (tweens and teens).

I’m really busy right now, can I take the course later?

If all goes well, I plan on repeating this challenge, so the answer should be yes. But seeing as it is free, you can sign up now, take the challenge multiple times, and participate more deeply in future sessions. The challenge is designed to fit into your busy lifestyle and take up very little time, so you might be surprised at what you get out of it now.

I’m not on Facebook and I don’t want to join or share my photos there.

That is totally fine. You can still get a lot out of the challenge if you do it by yourself. However, it is likely you’ll get more out of it if you join the group. Note that the Facebook group is completely private and only accessible to other Photosanity parents who sign up.

Can I sign up with my friends?

Absolutely! I’ve had groups of friends take my workshops in the past and it is great. Invite your friends to participate with you - you’ll actually get more out of it if you sign up with friends.

If you have any other questions or concerns, feel free to get in touch with me.

I’m looking forward to helping you shift your perspective and get more out of your photos - and your moments with your children.


About Alethea

Alethea Cheng Fitzpatrick is a family photographer, a photography coach for parents and the founder of Photosanity ( Alethea helps parents find more joy, delight and confidence in their day-to-day parenting experience through photography. Born and brought up in the UK, Alethea lives in Brooklyn with her husband and her two sons, Liam, age 7, and Jack, age 4.

Alethea has taught workshops at the Apple Store, Brooklyn Baby Expo, Brooklyn Babybites (now Mommybites) and online through and other platforms. She has been interviewed on 1010WINS and featured in The Daily Mail, Cool Mom Picks, Apartment Therapy, Ask Moxie and Mom365.


The road to better photos: what’s getting in the way  

Last week I talked about focusing on how it feels, not how it looks and the joy and confidence that can result daily from doing so. I also talked about the unexpected benefits of this shift in approach - the less tangible "non-visual" results of using photography to support your experience as a parent.

Today I want to take a moment to look some of the things that might be getting in the way.

Take, for example, one of my clients, Sara Grundel. When Sara first came to me, I asked what her biggest frustrations were with her photos.

First she spoke about how overwhelmed and frustrated she felt - she had taken tons of photos, yet most of them were, to use her words, “very bad.”

As I reviewed Sara’s photos, I could see that she was taking a LOT of photos while leading an active and busy life with two little ones (13 and 27 months at the time), but she was struggling with the same handful of issues in almost every photo. The joy in those moments shone through, but so did her frustration. She was trying many different approaches, indoors, outdoors, in the light, in the shade, posed, candid. She wasn’t happy with the results but she didn’t know what else to try.

Sara was also frustrated because she felt that, with a full time job, she had so little time with her kids as it was, let alone time to photograph them.

Most of Sara’s photos at the time were taken on her iPhone or point-and-shoot camera because she found the auto setting on her DLSR to be less than satisfactory, but she couldn’t figure out how to properly use any of the other settings. She felt like she really needed help with the technical aspects of her camera, but she also needed suggestions on how to fit photography into her busy life with two kids who were constantly running around.

She really wanted to have good, well-organized photos to document her children as they grew up, with the best photos printed to decorate her home and in albums to enjoy whenever she wanted.

I've worked with hundreds of parents, and I've heard these same frustrations over and over.

It's why I founded Photosanity in the first place - because I want everyone to experience the joy and delight that I get daily from photographing my kids. I believe that everyone can do this. You don't have to be "artistic" or "creative." You don't have to have tons of time to learn a new skill. You don't even have to use your DSLR to start getting more satisfaction out of your photos!

I loved working with Sara because even after our first coaching session, her photos transformed dramatically:

By the time she had completed five sessions plus my 12 week workshop, she was taking DSLR photos like these:

To be honest, when I started Photosanity, I never imagined that I would help parents get these kinds of results. Not only did Sara end up able to capture beautiful moments with her family, she made a printed album for each of her kids and a stunning wall gallery for their home.

Page layouts from Sara’s albums

Sara's wall gallery

What do you need to break through your frustrations?

  • You need to start with realistic, easy to understand, non-technical tips that you can apply right away using the camera that you have with you most - your iPhone.
  • You need content delivered in manageable pieces that speaks directly to your frustrations so you don’t have to search through tons of information to find what you want to learn.
  • You need an approach tailored specifically to your life and your needs as a parent, rather than training to become a professional photographer.
  • You need quick photo assignments you can accomplish in a few minutes as part of your daily routine and without requiring your children’s cooperation.
  • You need a coach who will help you figure out what you want and how to achieve it, and who will motivate, inspire and encourage you to keep trying.
  • You need a community of like-minded parents who will support and cheer you on as you do the same for them.

I'm currently working on a new version of my popular 12 week workshop that will be combined with my one-on-one coaching for an incredible experience and amazing results - but it won't be available until the fall.

In the meantime, I have developed a FREE 7 day challenge - read more about it here.


Better photos, better life: the unexpected results of photographing how it feels

In my last blog post, I talked about the idea of it's how it feels, not how it looks.

Today I want to go into a little more detail, because I know you want the visual results.

I know you want to take better photos of your kids - photos that capture the beauty of the moment as you experienced it. Photos that you're excited to share with your friends, whether it's on Facebook or Instagram, via email or, imagine this, in beautiful albums and on the walls of your home.

So, the question is: How is focusing on how it feels going to get you these results?

When you focus on how it feels, not how it looks, you will find that your concept of the moments that are worth capturing immediately expands. It is no longer about the "picture perfect" moment, when your kids are smiling and looking at the camera.

It's so much more than that.

It's their reaction to a new food you tried to give them at breakfast. It's the tea party they set up in the living room using all the sofa cushions to make a table and chairs, and their favorite red cape as a tea cloth. It's your child and their best friend whispering and giggling together at the playground.

It's also the mixed look of pride and surprise as your toddler conquers the stairs in your house. It's the baby taking a giant yawn before setting down to sleep. It's your older child reading to a younger sibling for the very first time.

It's so many moments daily that make up a life - your life.

It's the moments that can be easily forgotten or overlooked in the daily grind of diapers and feedings, tantrums and power struggles, homework and sibling conflicts, laundry and dishes.

Yes, we know that everyday parenting is filled with moments we'd rather forget too.

But when you use photography to help you let go of the bad moments and focus on all the positive moments, you can find more confidence and joy in the day-to-day experience of being a parent. Instead of dwelling on what didn’t go well, you’ll be reminded of what did. Instead of feeling guilty about areas where you could be doing better, you’ll be able to see that, overall, you are doing a great job, and that everything is going to be ok.

The amazing thing here is that the process feeds itself. Once you find that confidence and joy daily, that feeling will provide the fuel you need to start taking better photos that really capture the moments you love experiencing with your kids.

With a strong emotional foundation based on who you are as a parent and photos that better reflect the moments you experience and want to remember, you'll be motivated and inspired to learn more creative and technical approaches.

With some success under your belt with your iPhone photos, you'll finally find it worthwhile to take out your DSLR and learn how to get the most out of it.

And with photos that you love, you'll also have built up the momentum and impetus to organize, backup, edit and share them - online, in beautiful slideshows and albums, and on the walls of your home.

You'll get the visual results that you want.

But you'll also get these unexpected benefits:

  • more joy and confidence in your life daily as a parent - and less guilt that you are not spending enough "quality time" with your kids
  • the means to leverage the time you do have with your kids, even if it is not as much time as you would like
  • the ability to use your camera to be more in the moment and closer to your kids, rather than having your camera ruin the moment and come between you and your kids
  • a quick and easy medium to express your love for your kids and share that love with friends and family
  • a support network that experiences a strengthened bond between you and your kids through your photos
  • a means of focusing on what is good in your life - a practice of gratitude that increases your sense of satisfaction and well-being
  • the increased confidence your kids will feel as they develop a sense of their own story through your photos
  • peace of mind knowing that no matter what happens, your family's story will endure for generations to come

Sound good?

In my next blog post, let's look together at what might be getting in your way, preventing you from achieving the photos you dream of taking - and what you can do to work past it.


Taking photos: It's how it feels, not how it looks

You love taking photos of your kids. But the results? You’re not alone if you find them frustrating.

I know what it’s like to page through photo after photo and feel nothing but disappointment. Blur. Forced smiles. Strange lighting.

But the thought of “learning photography” can be overwhelming - the last thing you need is another “role” to add to the long list of job descriptions you are already covering inside and outside the home.

Not to mention that you just don’t feel like you have an “artist’s” or “photographer’s eye.” The whole process can be intimidating.

You are not alone. So many parents I hear from feel this way. You don’t want to become a professional photographer. You just want to be able to better capture the moments with your kids that you want to remember.

Fortunately, getting the kinds of photographs you’d like is easier than it seems.

I’ve recently started going to yoga class again, and the other day I heard:

"It's how it feels, not how it looks."

And I thought, "Wow! That's it!"

It sounds counterintuitive for something as visual as photography, but when you focus on how it feels, not how it looks, photographing your kids becomes so much more rewarding.

Your awareness of the moments that are worth capturing expands. You start noticing the moments more. You start to realize you have more of these moments than you thought. You start to focus on what was good about the day - and not what went wrong.

When you focus on how it feels, not how it looks, you can find confidence and joy daily through photographing your kids.

My older son, Liam, just turned seven, so I've been reminiscing about all the years since I became a mom.

From those crazy and intense and difficult and amazing first few weeks with a newborn, through toddlerhood and preschool, a baby brother, kindergarten, and now first grade. So many moments. So many feelings. So many experiences.

Wow, what a journey it has been.

Although I've been interested in photography since I was a child, it wasn’t until I became a mom that my photography truly found a purpose.

At first, that purpose was the same as any other new mom's - to document the moments of my child's life.

But what I quickly found was that it wasn't just about capturing the fleeting moments as my son grew up. Instead, I realized how meaningful and rewarding to my parenting experience it was to document those moments, even if it was just on my iPhone. In fact, the photos I took on my iPhone were in many ways more rewarding, as that was the camera that I had with me the most and therefore used the most to capture the moments that would unexpectedly end up meaning the most.

I can still remember some of those moments now, even without looking back at my photos.

There was the first time I made it out of the house by myself with my newborn. I drove all the way to Target (this is about a five minute drive!) and I triumphantly photographed my week-old baby in the aisles of baby clothes and sent it to my husband.

Judging by Liam’s face, he was not as thrilled to make it to Target as I was.

Or the first time I took a twenty minute walk with the baby all the way to Prospect Park. I remember the feeling of freedom, of my world opening up again, of being able to breathe and have space, having been housebound for several days after having a c-section and barely being able to walk.

I remember the first time we went out for brunch, baby in tow, some vague semblance of “normal” creeping into our lives for a few moments as we enjoyed some French toast while the baby slept.

I even remember photographing Liam at six weeks at the library, and then again at six months at almost the same spot, recalling the previous photo and marveling at how much he had grown, how much we had gone through in the months that had passed.

All of these moments I experienced more vividly and remember more clearly because I photographed them.

All of these moments, the kinds of milestones you never read about in the baby books, became touchstones for me - proof that I was doing it, I was surviving and even thriving as a mother.

I found that my camera brought me closer to my child and allowed me to be more present in the crazy experience of new motherhood. It gave me the means to process and express what I was going through, both good and bad. Plus, it gave me the means to find my voice as a mother, and in sharing those moments, connect not only myself but my husband and kids to our friends and family from all over the world and all parts of our lives.

In focusing on how it feels, not how it looks, I found that I was a mother first and a photographer second, and that the purpose of photographing my kids was ultimately to get more out of my experience as a parent.

I love being a mother. It feels like a calling, one I am so grateful to be experiencing. For me, becoming a mother has been the vehicle and the catalyst for discovering and becoming the truest and best version of myself.

That doesn't mean I have enjoyed every moment, or that it hasn't at times brought out the worst in me. The adjustments have been sometimes brutal, certainly almost never graceful.

But through it all, the experience of photographing my children has kept me focused on all that is good and beautiful and filled with love and joy in parenting. It has kept me focused on gratitude and wonder and yes, the silly little everyday things that otherwise get overlooked in what can, let's face it, be a lot of day-to-day drudgery.

So, the next time you look through your photos, ask yourself: Are you focusing on how it feels or how it looks?

Today's tip: Shift your perspective about how you approach photographing your kids. Think about how it feels, not how it looks. Take note of when you feel an emotion that you want to remember. Maybe it’s pride when your child tells you about their day. Joy as you watch them playing with a friend. Amusement as they chatter to a sibling. Awe as you watch them master a new task.

Feel that feeling, and then take a photograph of the moment that triggered that emotion. After you try this, let me know how it went in the comments below.

Stay tuned - in my next blog post, I'll go into more detail on how this works, as well as share some of the unexpected benefits.


Summer fun in photos

The school year is out and summer is in full swing. I've been madly taking photos and have tons to share with you!

There's been ice cream...

And cookies...

Afternoons in the park...

Backyard birthday parties...

A new obsession with ties...

More afternoons in the park...


The last day of kindergarten...

And a leap into a lake!

Hope you are having a great summer!

Capture the moment this summer

Don't miss out on your summer moments. Use some vacation time or grab some "me time" to take the Stop Missing the Moment Workshop and gather the skills you need to capture treasured moments from Summer 2015.